Advice Quotes

If you take nothing else from my story, take this: If I can change, you can change. All of this has to begin with the simple belief that real change is possible. That's the most important step. I believed I was the most horrible, incorrigible, miserable son of a bitch that was ever shat into civilization. For as long as I could remember, I believed that I was defective and that my flaws were hard-wired. Unchangeable. Only when I at least entertained the notion that maybe I was not actually a monster was I able to start chipping away at the narrative that had nearly destroyed my life and everyone in my wake. This is the key step. You have to believe you can change--and that you deserve better.

If I were to offer advice to others in a similar situation, it is that you really have to listen to yourself. You really have to take the time to check in with yourself and ask yourself the questions, you know, demand that of yourself, like, know what you want, or if you don’t know what you want, know what you want to try,...I think if what’s happened to me can be an inspiring story for anything, it’s this – you really can accomplish anything, but you need to give yourself permission to go for it.

The gym became my best friend. You’re able to go to the gym to sweat out toxins and get a little bit more clarity when you walk out the door, It doesn’t fix the problem, but it helps.

Asking for help is not a weakness, As a matter of fact, asking for help is our superpower, and men, especially us, we fall into this trap of being really averse to vulnerability, because we always want to be strong and feel like we can take on the world.

It's just a matter of saying, 'You know what, let's just go on a little vacation from these thoughts just for a minute. Just for a minute.' And then just keep extending that minute. And before you know it, that's who you are. That's like, when those thoughts quiet down. We're not our thoughts, are we? Our thoughts are just like fucking noise in our head, and nine times out of ten, it's not helpful. Just practicing talking your brain into the practice of being quiet, you'll start to inevitably realize, 'This is effective.'

Like most of our anxiety in life, it’s about these fears about what will happen. You know, when you’re able to still your mind, and be present in your body, those fears melt away. Anxiety in general is predicated on living outside of the moment, you know, analyzing the past and worrying about the future. So over ten years of making these movies, and being forced to do big-stage sort of things, you realize that a lot of the fears you had never really do come to fruition, and look even if they do, I’ve had some things that haven’t always gone the way I wanted to, when you choose to not dwell on them, to look for them, to read or absorb them, they do disappear.